Marriages come and go these days. Unfortunately. Divorce happens even in life of those most faithful and caring. But how about those who stay together? Do couples staying together always end up being a happy family? Surprisingly not!

"Being faithful" has been and will always be a very important yet sometime difficult marriage goal. Historically, divorce was not as easily obtained, so a lot of marriages did not involve faithful partners; many people were legally and societally stuck in a marriage long after faithfulness had gone out of the window. If we go back far enough in history, and if you look at many parts of the world, marriage has little to do with love. Marriage was and still is a barter system. Love happened on the side.

When something is too easy, it is often undervalued. Most men don't value women they got to sleep with the first time they met. By the same token, let's look at Paris Hilton and Bill Gates. She got her money and her lifestyle by being born with it, and fritters away her money and her time at well-publicized parties- easy come, easy go. He, on the other hand, values his hard-earned money and devotes millions and millions of dollars to charities - he knows the value of what he earned through his own hard work.

So why being a faithful spouse is synonymous with being a good father?

A child sees his parents as a system of things in his life and not as two separate individuals. For him, especially during his tender years, mommy and daddy is the best thing to be around. In a marriage where the husband is being unfaithful tensions in the couple escalate and arguments seem to arise out of nowhere. Overtime, as the marriage is hit worse, the couple ceases to sleep in the same bed; the child understands "something" is wrong, no matter his age. He sees it. He feels it.

For the child, this evokes a feeling of guilt. He thinks, "I must have done something wrong!"

He sees his mommy cry at night. Dad does not always come home after work like he used to. And when he does come back, he does not spend time with his mommy anymore. They barely talk. And talks often lead to arguments. This hurts a child so deep that it often affects his capacity to build healthy relationships when he grows up. Some are traumatized for ever. Some represent behavioral disorders.

Dads, however, don't always understand this. For many men, being a good father has nothing to do with being a good husband. They fail to realize that being faithful and building a happy marriage constitutes an essential part of his fatherhood itself. Most dads ignore the devastating effects of their affair on the child. They think their love for their child is separate from whatever is happening in their marital relationship.

In cases where unfaithfulness in marriage is an accident rather than choice, men should try their best to prevent one from happening. And the mother too, if she is being unfaithful, should try to be less selfish and try to understand the consequences of their actions on the life they being in the world. Family after all is a structured system and its importance is beyond what we realize. If we, as adults, fail to follow the rules of commitment, we are bound to face consequences. So it is therefore important for some dads to grow up, work on their marriage, love their wife and avoid giving in to temptation because all this is essential part of being a good DAD!